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sadie612

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so since my daughter has been driving I have turned into a nervous nelly .... I make her call me or text me everytime she gets somewhere or leaves to go somewhere when I am not at home.

We all have iphones...with that said she doesnt know we have gps on her phone. I watch her go to school every morning and come home every day. I watch her if she has to go to work.... it is not that I don't trust her because I do 100% . I just become a ball of nerves since her wreck and I worry about her everyday.

so what do you do to spy on your kids that they don't know about lol
 
It's really tough when your kid starts driving. Worried us for the longest, but it does get better in time.
 
pft..mine KNOWS I track all his moves. :laugh But he also knows I do it not so much because of him, but everyone else on the road. That phone and texting law does not seem to bother most.
 
I don't really have to track mine cause she is usually with me..lol She doesn't have a car yet so she doesn't drive alot by herself. But when she is away from me, driving or riding with friends...she knows the rules. She text me when she gets there, she text me when she is leaving to head somewhere else and she text me when she is on her way home. I just like to know when she is on the road.

I do check their phone accounts and if I feel so inclined I will pick up their phones at any given time and read their text messages
 
ShoeDiva said:
pft..mine KNOWS I track all his moves. :laugh But he also knows I do it not so much because of him, but everyone else on the road. That phone and texting law does not seem to bother most.
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Me, too!

We made ours sign a 16 page contract when he started to drive. (Sorry, none of those excuses like, "Well you never said THAT." EVERYTHING is spelled out!) His biggest mistake was breaking the "no one in the car for 6 months" rule. He picked up his date (when he told us she was meeting him at the movies) and drove her there. He probably realized it wasn't the smartest thing in the world to break rules (or, ahem, THE LAW) when he knew we were going to dinner in Hiram. We were stopped at a stop sign and watched him drive right in front of us. So we followed him to the theater and let him have it right in front of his date. And then he lost driving privileges for a month. (Really not fun when you've only had your license a couple of months.)

I'm a strict parent (although, not as strict as I think I should be!) but I don't regret a single thing I do. For the most part, ours are good kids who follow authority well. One of these days, they'll thank us, sadie! :)
 
I don't think parents are nearly strict enough these days. We were VERY strict on ours, but lovingly so. And because she played by the rules, we loosened the reigns as she earned her freedom. Luckily, or perhaps by the grace of God, the timing of all that seemed to work out just right.
 
Guard Dad said:
I don't think parents are nearly strict enough these days. We were VERY strict on ours, but lovingly so. And because she played by the rules, we loosened the reigns as she earned her freedom. Luckily, or perhaps by the grace of God, the timing of all that seemed to work out just right.
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I agree.

The thing we still do (and our oldest will be 18 in a week) is to put texting limits on his cell phone. The phone turns off at 10:30pm, and doesn't turn back on until 8am. He DETESTS that, but otherwise, he'd be up all night. Until he pays the bill....

:D
 
i put texting limits on mine but I just tell her no texting and pull the account ... she has been pretty good about that


I am STRICT!!!! she thinks overly strict but that is how I got suck a good kid. I am starting to loosen up some cause she is showing me she is growing up

we did make her break up with her over controlling boyfriend that was pressuring her ... but other than that we let her make her own choices ( she thinks with out our help)
 
sadie612 said:
we did make her break up with her over controlling boyfriend that was pressuring her ...
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Prolly a good move. How long has that been, and how is she feeling about that now? I don't like to hear of situations like that.
 
mei lan said:
sadie612 said:
we did make her break up with her over controlling boyfriend that was pressuring her ...
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Prolly a good move. How long has that been, and how is she feeling about that now? I don't like to hear of situations like that.
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they were going out for 11 months and 3 weeks... we just made her do it about 3 weeks ago. She was really upset for a few days but not she seems to be doing good. She is much more fun to be around now ... Her Friends are starting to come back around and are also glad to have the fun loving Ashlyn back like we are
 
6th grader doesn't drive yet, and doesn't have a phone. But, I am taking notes.
Thanks Guys!!

I feel like I was to soft on my older two, so now I am trying not to make the same missteps with this one. I also don't want to go overboard either.
 
gog8tors said:
6th grader doesn't drive yet, and doesn't have a phone. But, I am taking notes.
Thanks Guys!!

I feel like I was to soft on my older two, so now I am trying not to make the same missteps with this one. I also don't want to go overboard either.
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My 6th grader doesn't either. He thinks that's the worst thing in the world! And I am surprised how many kids his age have cell phones (even better than the one I have.) I remember a couple of kids in his SECOND GRADE class who had cell phones! :eek:
 
my dd got one in 6th grade because it was $10 to add her to our line so we got rid of the home phone and saved a ton of $$$
 
sadie612 said:
mei lan said:
sadie612 said:
we did make her break up with her over controlling boyfriend that was pressuring her ...
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Prolly a good move. How long has that been, and how is she feeling about that now? I don't like to hear of situations like that.
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they were going out for 11 months and 3 weeks... we just made her do it about 3 weeks ago. She was really upset for a few days but not she seems to be doing good. She is much more fun to be around now ... Her Friends are starting to come back around and are also glad to have the fun loving Ashlyn back like we are
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I can't help but think this is a very good thing. I REALLY don't like to see those sorts of relationships in anybody, but ESP. in somebody that young. Keep your eyes peeled. Guys like that are very persuasive and he might try to get her to see him in secret. However, she may actually be glad (deep down inside) that you made her break up with him.
 
When my daughter was 13, I gave her my old cell phone. I told her she had X minutes and if she went over she had to pay the difference. Calls to me or mom were exempt (before free in-network calls) If she lost or broke the phone, she did without.

I also told her that if she played by the rules for the rest of the year (it was May) and kept her grades up, I would pay for her choice of new phones. Keep in mind this was before all the high-priced smart phones and we didn't have texting yet.

She fulfilled her end of the deal, so just before Christmas we went to the AT&T store where she picked out her new phone.

I made her a deal early in high school that if she played by the rules and kept her grades up, that I would pay for her college. Again, she fulfilled her end of the deal and kept my promise.


Parents should let their children earn privileges, and reward them when they do. They learn a great life's lesson while doing so.
 
sadie612 said:
my dd got one in 6th grade because it was $10 to add her to our line so we got rid of the home phone and saved a ton of $$$
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For some families, it makes sense. My niece has one, so her mom can call her when she's at her dad's house. My 11 year old is never anywhere (other than school where there is a phone) without me, so he definitely doesn't need one. :D



And I'm sorry A is going through the "controlling boyfriend" thing. It's soooo hard at that age, without all the extra drama that brings. And good for you for protecting your daughter (which is exactly what you did.) Too many parents don't step in until a lot of damage has been done.

Ours was in a bad relationship for about a year, but there's no comparison - it's much more difficult with a girl, I think. Our son has been in a great relationship for about 6 months now, and it's made such a difference in him. We got our boy back! I've even had other parents tell me that their son(s) (our son's friends) didn't like him very much when he was with the other girl.
 
mei lan said:
sadie612 said:
mei lan said:
sadie612 said:
we did make her break up with her over controlling boyfriend that was pressuring her ...
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Prolly a good move. How long has that been, and how is she feeling about that now? I don't like to hear of situations like that.
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they were going out for 11 months and 3 weeks... we just made her do it about 3 weeks ago. She was really upset for a few days but not she seems to be doing good. She is much more fun to be around now ... Her Friends are starting to come back around and are also glad to have the fun loving Ashlyn back like we are
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I can't help but think this is a very good thing. I REALLY don't like to see those sorts of relationships in anybody, but ESP. in somebody that young. Keep your eyes peeled. Guys like that are very persuasive and he might try to get her to see him in secret. However, she may actually be glad (deep down inside) that you made her break up with him.
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no, she will not see him in secret... she is a really good girl. We have had words so he knows I will not put up with any of that. A mad sadie is a very scary sadie
 
sadie612 said:
no, she will not see him in secret... she is a really good girl. We have had words so he knows I will not put up with any of that. A mad sadie is a very scary sadie
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Excellent. This makes me think he won't mess with you. Me likee...
 
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