What have we done to marriage?

[Foxmeister]

I think TV has a part of it. I also think bad choices in friends do as well as some of them want you to be as miserable as they are. Then there are so many who have the need for instant gratification, who think that if a problem isn't resolved in the fashion they want, they leave. There are those who haven't seem to abandon integrity and honesty as well as communicating openly. There are those who are also selfish and think only of themselves. Of course there are also many who fit in all these categories.

 

[Natasha1]

There are so many factors of American life that discourage the survival of marriage. (Let me state that I am a divorcee and in a committed relationship that I hope leads to marriage)
Some one said how tv portrays dad/husband. I totally agree. It is a double hitter. The women/children expect that daddy is an idiot and treat him as such. Also, seems that men take this as an excuse to be a real life dummy, as if it is normal to "leave the socks on the bedroom floor".
I also the think the abortion of religion from many homes is also a factor. People dont think that it is a promis between you, that person, and GOD. I didnt think of it that way when I got married or divorced the first time. I was void of the religious aspect of my marriage. It wasnt until this relationship that praying with my partner even was a consideration. God lived at church and my husband & I lived at our house. We never even invited God to visit.

 

[mei lan]

I also the think the abortion of religion from many homes is also a factor. People dont think that it is a promis between you, that person, and GOD. I didnt think of it that way when I got married or divorced the first time. I was void of the religious aspect of my marriage. It wasnt until this relationship that praying with my partner even was a consideration. God lived at church and my husband & I lived at our house. We never even invited God to visit.

WOW. That is one powerful paragraph right there. Thank you for sharing. And welcome to the highway!

 

[Natasha1]

Thanks, Im glad to be here

 

[Foxmeister]

When this topic began in March, I thought I was happily married at the time. Now, I'm going through a divorce. Needless to say, I was very shocked.

 

[Natasha1]

When this topic began in March, I thought I was happily married at the time. Now, I'm going through a divorce. Needless to say, I was very shocked.

It came out of the blue for me to. I remember he had gave me new wedding rings for valentines day (we were never properly engaged...no engagement ring). He came to my job with roses and preposed on one knee and everything (after 6yrs of marriage). By June he was sleeping with someone else, by july he had moved out. smh.

Im so sorry that you are going through this. It is VERY VERY hard. My heart and prayers go out to you. Was there no way to save the marriage?

 

[I'm Floored]

When this topic began in March, I thought I was happily married at the time. Now, I'm going through a divorce. Needless to say, I was very shocked.

My heart breaks for you, Fox. I think it illustrates, too, that it takes BOTH spouses (husband and wife) to be committed to the marriage. You certainly couldn't do it alone.

Hang in there!

 

[Foxmeister]

When this topic began in March, I thought I was happily married at the time. Now, I'm going through a divorce. Needless to say, I was very shocked.

My heart breaks for you, Fox. I think it illustrates, too, that it takes BOTH spouses (husband and wife) to be committed to the marriage. You certainly couldn't do it alone.

Hang in there!

Thanks IF. I'm hanging in there like a hair in a biscuit.

 

[mei lan]

When this topic began in March, I thought I was happily married at the time. Now, I'm going through a divorce. Needless to say, I was very shocked.

My heart breaks for you, Fox. I think it illustrates, too, that it takes BOTH spouses (husband and wife) to be committed to the marriage. You certainly couldn't do it alone.

Hang in there!

Thanks IF. I'm hanging in there like a hair in a biscuit.

Good heavens. You have been corrupted by Guard Dad. That sounds like something he would say. :sick

At any rate, your attitude is good, and that will serve you well.

 

[Foxmeister]

When this topic began in March, I thought I was happily married at the time. Now, I'm going through a divorce. Needless to say, I was very shocked.

My heart breaks for you, Fox. I think it illustrates, too, that it takes BOTH spouses (husband and wife) to be committed to the marriage. You certainly couldn't do it alone.

Hang in there!

Thanks IF. I'm hanging in there like a hair in a biscuit.

Good heavens. You have been corrupted by Guard Dad. That sounds like something he would say. :sick

At any rate, your attitude is good, and that will serve you well.

Actually, I got that saying from one of my soldiers while I was in Afghanistan. He would say that everytime I asked him how he was doing. Another one was, "Finer than a frog's hair."

I just want to be fair in this divorce and try to make it as amicable as possible. I would like to see us remain friends afterwards.

 

[mei lan]

I just want to be fair in this divorce and try to make it as amicable as possible. I would like to see us remain friends afterwards.

Do y'all have children together? Regardless, that is an excellent move on your part.

 

[Natasha1]

I just want to be fair in this divorce and try to make it as amicable as possible. I would like to see us remain friends afterwards.

Be fair so you feel good about yourself and that you dont turn into a monster. Being friends afterwards is not always a good long term idea (that is prob clouded with alot negative of personal experience )

 

[Foxmeister]

I just want to be fair in this divorce and try to make it as amicable as possible. I would like to see us remain friends afterwards.

Do y'all have children together? Regardless, that is an excellent move on your part.

We don't have children together.

 

[Foxmeister]

I just want to be fair in this divorce and try to make it as amicable as possible. I would like to see us remain friends afterwards.

Be fair so you feel good about yourself and that you dont turn into a monster. Being friends afterwards is not always a good long term idea (that is prob clouded with alot negative of personal experience )

Being friends may not be possible, but I would still like to try.

 

[Natasha1]

I just want to be fair in this divorce and try to make it as amicable as possible. I would like to see us remain friends afterwards.

Do y'all have children together? Regardless, that is an excellent move on your part.

We don't have children together.

no kids? not much point in remaining friends... it will ultimatly hinder your recovery process.

 

[Madea]

There are so many factors of American life that discourage the survival of marriage. (Let me state that I am a divorcee and in a committed relationship that I hope leads to marriage)
Some one said how tv portrays dad/husband. I totally agree. It is a double hitter. The women/children expect that daddy is an idiot and treat him as such. Also, seems that men take this as an excuse to be a real life dummy, as if it is normal to "leave the socks on the bedroom floor".
I also the think the abortion of religion from many homes is also a factor. People dont think that it is a promis between you, that person, and GOD. I didnt think of it that way when I got married or divorced the first time. I was void of the religious aspect of my marriage. It wasnt until this relationship that praying with my partner even was a consideration. God lived at church and my husband & I lived at our house. We never even invited God to visit.

That was beautiful Natasha1!

I've missed all these replies due to my frequent use of the "recent posts" button.

 

[Grey Colson]

I believe it's very true that women have the power. I'm not shifting blame, but casual sex in our society has filled this nation with one parent households. Women, don't allow the men to believe they can have what they want and then walk away.

I used to tell my daughter something I heard a wonderful preacher say once. It always stuck with me. I knew that girls would eventually mock her for not "doing it" with the guys. I told her to answer with what that preacher said. "What you are I can become anytime I wish. But what I am, you can never, EVER be again"

Now that may work and it may not, but she remembers that to this very day.

 

[deewee]

I believe it's very true that women have the power. I'm not shifting blame, but casual sex in our society has filled this nation with one parent households. Women, don't allow the men to believe they can have what they want and then walk away.

I used to tell my daughter something I heard a wonderful preacher say once. It always stuck with me. I knew that girls would eventually mock her for not "doing it" with the guys. I told her to answer with what that preacher said. "What you are I can become anytime I wish. But what I am, you can never, EVER be again"

Now that may work and it may not, but she remembers that to this very day.

I.love.this.