mei lan
Pursuit Driver
OK, since Sadie brought it up in the engagement thread and Callahan said it'd be an ok topic, to those of you who are divorced, what caused the divorce? I've never been married, so I don't have one of those stories, either, but I'll tell you my sister's story. She and my BIL divorced because of his addiction to pornography and refusal to deal with it. She certainly was not without blame in the relationship, and she did things after she left that I cannot defend (and which she now regrets), but the pornography was the central cause. A lot of people think it's no biggie, but I can tell you this - IT IS TO THE WOMAN in the relationship. It is being unfaithful to the wife just as much as having an affair...in fact, it IS having an affair, but it's even more insulting than a regular affair, because it's with persons who don't even exist in real life (either as people, or as the physical beings they are portrayed as due to airbrushing, surgical enhancements, etc.). My BIL filed for divorce because sister had an affair with another guy after she left BIL, but she never would have left if not for the pornography. Sister should have filed for divorce years ago, IMHO. We knew none of this, of course, until afterward. She was too ashamed to tell anyone.