why you got divorced

Sungoddess said:
Touchy subject for some; however, I am not proud, but the truth IS the truth. I have been married several times, and will not bore you with details but to say 2 of the 5 were equal fault, and after being divorced for 23 years now, I love being single and do not plan on the 6th! :firstplace I think I won the trophy for the worst record! :stooges
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Oh, darlin'...you don't even come close. I know several people who have been married 9 and 10 times.
 
Me and my husband are both on our first marriage and are still going strong after 22 years. I take my vows seriously for BETTER and for WORSE. Worst part of our marriage was the separations due to the military, but that is to be expected, not that it makes it any easier.

:smooch for the reunions.
 
DallasRed said:
Me and my husband are both on our first marriage and are still going strong after 22 years. I take my vows seriously for BETTER and for WORSE. Worst part of our marriage was the separations due to the military, but that is to be expected, not that it makes it any easier.

:smooch for the reunions.
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I don't know how you do it, being apart for lengths of time.
 
We have been together every day now for 3 years in July. But if he gets with the Blue Angels I will never see him........BOO HOO but it is great for his career so I support him in what he wants to do.
 
Guard Dad said:
DallasRed said:
Me and my husband are both on our first marriage and are still going strong after 22 years. I take my vows seriously for BETTER and for WORSE. Worst part of our marriage was the separations due to the military, but that is to be expected, not that it makes it any easier.

:smooch for the reunions.
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I don't know how you do it, being apart for lengths of time.
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My poor brother ... he was stationed in Korea for a year with his wife having to remain in Fayetteville. The day after he returned she told him that she needed space and moved out. Very shortly thereafter she filed for divorce and cited irreconcilable differences. Wait, what? He swears there was nothing different during any of their communications while he was gone, he's back for less than two days and there are irreconcilable differences? She was an total flippin' ice princess and we pretty much all figured out that she had started another relationship while he was overseas.
 
unionmom said:
Guard Dad said:
DallasRed said:
Me and my husband are both on our first marriage and are still going strong after 22 years. I take my vows seriously for BETTER and for WORSE. Worst part of our marriage was the separations due to the military, but that is to be expected, not that it makes it any easier.

:smooch for the reunions.
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I don't know how you do it, being apart for lengths of time.
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My poor brother ... he was stationed in Korea for a year with his wife having to remain in Fayetteville. The day after he returned she told him that she needed space and moved out. Very shortly thereafter she filed for divorce and cited irreconcilable differences. Wait, what? He swears there was nothing different during any of their communications while he was gone, he's back for less than two days and there are irreconcilable differences? She was an total flippin' ice princess and we pretty much all figured out that she had started another relationship while he was overseas.
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Well, she needed slapping once for doing him that way, and a second time for doing a member of the Armed Forces that way.

"Ice Princess"....hahaha!
 
unionmom said:
Guard Dad said:
DallasRed said:
Me and my husband are both on our first marriage and are still going strong after 22 years. I take my vows seriously for BETTER and for WORSE. Worst part of our marriage was the separations due to the military, but that is to be expected, not that it makes it any easier.

:smooch for the reunions.
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I don't know how you do it, being apart for lengths of time.
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My poor brother ... he was stationed in Korea for a year with his wife having to remain in Fayetteville. The day after he returned she told him that she needed space and moved out. Very shortly thereafter she filed for divorce and cited irreconcilable differences. Wait, what? He swears there was nothing different during any of their communications while he was gone, he's back for less than two days and there are irreconcilable differences? She was an total flippin' ice princess and we pretty much all figured out that she had started another relationship while he was overseas.
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Unfortunately while we were living on base, I saw this happen all the time.
 
I get that not everyone is cut out for a relationship with separations like that. What I don't get is lying about it. Own up to your humanness, your weakness, your mistakes, your whatever you want to call it. She should have told him what all was going on and then at least he would have a chance to react to the reality instead of coming home to a blindside and then months of wondering what he had done. She never did tell him that it was all on her. She let him believe that he had something to do with why their marriage failed. It wasn't until months later that he started to find out what she had been doing while he was gone.
 
Wow. That makes me feel sad that someone would do something like that to their spouse, especially when they are away on military duty. :( I really do not get people like that.
 
unionmom said:
He swears there was nothing different during any of their communications while he was gone, he's back for less than two days and there are irreconcilable differences? She was an total flippin' ice princess and we pretty much all figured out that she had started another relationship while he was overseas.
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GUARANTEED. She just didn't want the bad rep of divorcing a soldier while he was deployed. There was somebody else. I've seen it before.
 
unionmom said:
I get that not everyone is cut out for a relationship with separations like that. What I don't get is lying about it. Own up to your humanness, your weakness, your mistakes, your whatever you want to call it. She should have told him what all was going on and then at least he would have a chance to react to the reality instead of coming home to a blindside and then months of wondering what he had done. She never did tell him that it was all on her. She let him believe that he had something to do with why their marriage failed. It wasn't until months later that he started to find out what she had been doing while he was gone.
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But nooooooooooo. First, she would have to own up to being the one who was instigating the divorce, and second, she would be (rightly) castigated by one and all for abandoning a serviceman while he was away serving his country. This way, she gets to skate and make it look like it's not her fault. By the time anybody figures out what's going on, she's long gone and everybody's thinking of the ten more recent scandals. What. A. Witch.
 
Bad enough being away from your spouse, but being separated from your children too? These soldiers are stronger than I am.
 
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