why you got divorced

[ShoeDiva]

Do any of you think (the multiple divorcees) that you just rushed out of one to another and that is why it did not work again? Also, were you required to do marriage counseling prior to any of your marriages? I (personally) believe that helped us out in the beginning and actually through many years. I was nervous of marrying so young (20), but I knew without a doubt B was who I was to marry and to commit my whole life to. So far it has worked. We do argue over things, but actually it is the little things that we will disagree on. In 19 years the things that really matter we have always agreed or compromised to make it work.

Before I married wife #1, we attended counseling as she was Catholic and the church required it. Once we were married it was like she turned into another person. We were married 8 years when we divorced. It was a year later when I married #2. Things were great, so I thought until I found out she was having an affair. I married #3 six months after divorcing #2. In hindsight, I think that was too soon.

I think God sent me to Afghanistan for several reasons. One of those so I would be gone for an entire year and not able to date. I'm in no hurry to put myself in a committed relationship and being here for a year is good. If I do meet someone, it gives me a year to get to know them through email, Skype and talking on the phone before we actually meet in person. I think that keeps keeps the pressure off. It gives the opportunity to get to know someone on an emotional level without the physcial aspects getting in the way confusing the building of the relationship. If I ever do the marriage thing again, I will definitely know the person a lot better than I believed I knew the other three. Does that make sense?

Makes perfect sense. It also gives you time to get to know yourself, at this stage of your life, without the complications of a relationship or someone else to worry about. Enjoy it...this time is just for you! :thumbsup

It'll give him time to get the camel fetish out of his system too.

:faint

 

[Foxmeister]

Do any of you think (the multiple divorcees) that you just rushed out of one to another and that is why it did not work again? Also, were you required to do marriage counseling prior to any of your marriages? I (personally) believe that helped us out in the beginning and actually through many years. I was nervous of marrying so young (20), but I knew without a doubt B was who I was to marry and to commit my whole life to. So far it has worked. We do argue over things, but actually it is the little things that we will disagree on. In 19 years the things that really matter we have always agreed or compromised to make it work.

Before I married wife #1, we attended counseling as she was Catholic and the church required it. Once we were married it was like she turned into another person. We were married 8 years when we divorced. It was a year later when I married #2. Things were great, so I thought until I found out she was having an affair. I married #3 six months after divorcing #2. In hindsight, I think that was too soon.

I think God sent me to Afghanistan for several reasons. One of those so I would be gone for an entire year and not able to date. I'm in no hurry to put myself in a committed relationship and being here for a year is good. If I do meet someone, it gives me a year to get to know them through email, Skype and talking on the phone before we actually meet in person. I think that keeps keeps the pressure off. It gives the opportunity to get to know someone on an emotional level without the physcial aspects getting in the way confusing the building of the relationship. If I ever do the marriage thing again, I will definitely know the person a lot better than I believed I knew the other three. Does that make sense?

Makes perfect sense. It also gives you time to get to know yourself, at this stage of your life, without the complications of a relationship or someone else to worry about. Enjoy it...this time is just for you! :thumbsup

It'll give him time to get the camel fetish out of his system too.

I have news for you; I have yet to see a camel here.

 

[Foxmeister]

Do any of you think (the multiple divorcees) that you just rushed out of one to another and that is why it did not work again? Also, were you required to do marriage counseling prior to any of your marriages? I (personally) believe that helped us out in the beginning and actually through many years. I was nervous of marrying so young (20), but I knew without a doubt B was who I was to marry and to commit my whole life to. So far it has worked. We do argue over things, but actually it is the little things that we will disagree on. In 19 years the things that really matter we have always agreed or compromised to make it work.

Before I married wife #1, we attended counseling as she was Catholic and the church required it. Once we were married it was like she turned into another person. We were married 8 years when we divorced. It was a year later when I married #2. Things were great, so I thought until I found out she was having an affair. I married #3 six months after divorcing #2. In hindsight, I think that was too soon.

I think God sent me to Afghanistan for several reasons. One of those so I would be gone for an entire year and not able to date. I'm in no hurry to put myself in a committed relationship and being here for a year is good. If I do meet someone, it gives me a year to get to know them through email, Skype and talking on the phone before we actually meet in person. I think that keeps keeps the pressure off. It gives the opportunity to get to know someone on an emotional level without the physcial aspects getting in the way confusing the building of the relationship. If I ever do the marriage thing again, I will definitely know the person a lot better than I believed I knew the other three. Does that make sense?

Makes perfect sense. It also gives you time to get to know yourself, at this stage of your life, without the complications of a relationship or someone else to worry about. Enjoy it...this time is just for you! :thumbsup

Thanks, but I'd rather get to know myself better at a beach. :laugh

 

[Foxmeister]

But how long is it going to take him to get the sand out of his drawers??

There's really little sand here on the base because they've covered it up with 2" of gravel to eliminate all the mud when it rains. The sand here is like talcum powder. When it gets wet, it sticks to the soles of your boots like clay and continues to accumualte on them, making your boots weigh a ton. Then your tracking it inside all the buildings. The gravel eliminates that. The gravel is a pain to walk on though.

 

[sadie612]

Do any of you think (the multiple divorcees) that you just rushed out of one to another and that is why it did not work again? Also, were you required to do marriage counseling prior to any of your marriages? I (personally) believe that helped us out in the beginning and actually through many years. I was nervous of marrying so young (20), but I knew without a doubt B was who I was to marry and to commit my whole life to. So far it has worked. We do argue over things, but actually it is the little things that we will disagree on. In 19 years the things that really matter we have always agreed or compromised to make it work.

Before I married wife #1, we attended counseling as she was Catholic and the church required it. Once we were married it was like she turned into another person. We were married 8 years when we divorced. It was a year later when I married #2. Things were great, so I thought until I found out she was having an affair. I married #3 six months after divorcing #2. In hindsight, I think that was too soon.

I think God sent me to Afghanistan for several reasons. One of those so I would be gone for an entire year and not able to date. I'm in no hurry to put myself in a committed relationship and being here for a year is good. If I do meet someone, it gives me a year to get to know them through email, Skype and talking on the phone before we actually meet in person. I think that keeps keeps the pressure off. It gives the opportunity to get to know someone on an emotional level without the physcial aspects getting in the way confusing the building of the relationship. If I ever do the marriage thing again, I will definitely know the person a lot better than I believed I knew the other three. Does that make sense?

Makes perfect sense. It also gives you time to get to know yourself, at this stage of your life, without the complications of a relationship or someone else to worry about. Enjoy it...this time is just for you! :thumbsup

It'll give him time to get the camel fetish out of his system too.

I have news for you; I have yet to see a camel here.

i saw a few camels today... why do people where pants so tight sometimes

 

[Guard Dad]

Do any of you think (the multiple divorcees) that you just rushed out of one to another and that is why it did not work again? Also, were you required to do marriage counseling prior to any of your marriages? I (personally) believe that helped us out in the beginning and actually through many years. I was nervous of marrying so young (20), but I knew without a doubt B was who I was to marry and to commit my whole life to. So far it has worked. We do argue over things, but actually it is the little things that we will disagree on. In 19 years the things that really matter we have always agreed or compromised to make it work.

Before I married wife #1, we attended counseling as she was Catholic and the church required it. Once we were married it was like she turned into another person. We were married 8 years when we divorced. It was a year later when I married #2. Things were great, so I thought until I found out she was having an affair. I married #3 six months after divorcing #2. In hindsight, I think that was too soon.

I think God sent me to Afghanistan for several reasons. One of those so I would be gone for an entire year and not able to date. I'm in no hurry to put myself in a committed relationship and being here for a year is good. If I do meet someone, it gives me a year to get to know them through email, Skype and talking on the phone before we actually meet in person. I think that keeps keeps the pressure off. It gives the opportunity to get to know someone on an emotional level without the physcial aspects getting in the way confusing the building of the relationship. If I ever do the marriage thing again, I will definitely know the person a lot better than I believed I knew the other three. Does that make sense?

Makes perfect sense. It also gives you time to get to know yourself, at this stage of your life, without the complications of a relationship or someone else to worry about. Enjoy it...this time is just for you! :thumbsup

It'll give him time to get the camel fetish out of his system too.

I have news for you; I have yet to see a camel here.

i saw a few camels today... why do people where pants so tight sometimes

LOL

You just ain't right

 

[Blazing Saddles]

This is a topic I have to be careful in. I could go on for days. I've been divorced once. Got married at 20 and was divorced at 24. Two kids involved. Ex decided a coworker would fill her desires better. When I said "I do" , I meant it but that didn't matter. After 4 years of being single and lonely at times, God sent me the most wonderful wife in the world. We've been married for (almost) 14 years and the ex is still struggling with her third. (You know it's kinda like watching a jumper with no parachute....it's not "if" he is going to hit bottom, it's "when") I'm thankful we're no longer together but my 2 oldest children have scars to deal with.

 

[Blazing Saddles]

Do any of you think (the multiple divorcees) that you just rushed out of one to another and that is why it did not work again? Also, were you required to do marriage counseling prior to any of your marriages? I (personally) believe that helped us out in the beginning and actually through many years. I was nervous of marrying so young (20), but I knew without a doubt B was who I was to marry and to commit my whole life to. So far it has worked. We do argue over things, but actually it is the little things that we will disagree on. In 19 years the things that really matter we have always agreed or compromised to make it work.

Before I married wife #1, we attended counseling as she was Catholic and the church required it. Once we were married it was like she turned into another person. We were married 8 years when we divorced. It was a year later when I married #2. Things were great, so I thought until I found out she was having an affair. I married #3 six months after divorcing #2. In hindsight, I think that was too soon.

I think God sent me to Afghanistan for several reasons. One of those so I would be gone for an entire year and not able to date. I'm in no hurry to put myself in a committed relationship and being here for a year is good. If I do meet someone, it gives me a year to get to know them through email, Skype and talking on the phone before we actually meet in person. I think that keeps keeps the pressure off. It gives the opportunity to get to know someone on an emotional level without the physcial aspects getting in the way confusing the building of the relationship. If I ever do the marriage thing again, I will definitely know the person a lot better than I believed I knew the other three. Does that make sense?

Makes perfect sense. It also gives you time to get to know yourself, at this stage of your life, without the complications of a relationship or someone else to worry about. Enjoy it...this time is just for you! :thumbsup

It'll give him time to get the camel fetish out of his system too.

I have news for you; I have yet to see a camel here.

Will a goat suffice? :HAHA

 

[Foxmeister]

Do any of you think (the multiple divorcees) that you just rushed out of one to another and that is why it did not work again? Also, were you required to do marriage counseling prior to any of your marriages? I (personally) believe that helped us out in the beginning and actually through many years. I was nervous of marrying so young (20), but I knew without a doubt B was who I was to marry and to commit my whole life to. So far it has worked. We do argue over things, but actually it is the little things that we will disagree on. In 19 years the things that really matter we have always agreed or compromised to make it work.

Before I married wife #1, we attended counseling as she was Catholic and the church required it. Once we were married it was like she turned into another person. We were married 8 years when we divorced. It was a year later when I married #2. Things were great, so I thought until I found out she was having an affair. I married #3 six months after divorcing #2. In hindsight, I think that was too soon.

I think God sent me to Afghanistan for several reasons. One of those so I would be gone for an entire year and not able to date. I'm in no hurry to put myself in a committed relationship and being here for a year is good. If I do meet someone, it gives me a year to get to know them through email, Skype and talking on the phone before we actually meet in person. I think that keeps keeps the pressure off. It gives the opportunity to get to know someone on an emotional level without the physcial aspects getting in the way confusing the building of the relationship. If I ever do the marriage thing again, I will definitely know the person a lot better than I believed I knew the other three. Does that make sense?

Makes perfect sense. It also gives you time to get to know yourself, at this stage of your life, without the complications of a relationship or someone else to worry about. Enjoy it...this time is just for you! :thumbsup

It'll give him time to get the camel fetish out of his system too.

I have news for you; I have yet to see a camel here.

Will a goat suffice? :HAHA

I've seen a lot of them and sheep. :laugh

 

[Callahan]

What about camel spiders?

 

[sadie612]

Lawd, now we are bringing sheep into the picture... You people are just to much for me lol

 

[Foxmeister]

What about camel spiders?

I haven't seen any of them either. I never saw one the last time I was here either.

 

[Foxmeister]

Lawd, now we are bringing sheep into the picture... You people are just to much for me lol

It makes you want to say, "Ewe." :laugh

 

[Genevieve]

Got married way too young;

I think this is one of the primary causes for marriages either failing or having difficulties. I was just a TOTALLY different person at 25 than I was at 18. TOTALLY DIFFERENT. I could have reasonably gotten married and not made my husband want to murder me when I was about 29. But 18? Lord, have mercy...it would not have been a pretty sight. Now, my mother was 18 when she got married, but as I have told her, those were different times, and that generation was just different. They understood responsibility and commitment far better than following generations.

Oh, I was too. Honestly, I didn't grow up until I became a father. Little baby girls can change a man for the better.

It definitely has become part of your identity, GuardDAD! ) )

 

[Guard Dad]

Got married way too young;

I think this is one of the primary causes for marriages either failing or having difficulties. I was just a TOTALLY different person at 25 than I was at 18. TOTALLY DIFFERENT. I could have reasonably gotten married and not made my husband want to murder me when I was about 29. But 18? Lord, have mercy...it would not have been a pretty sight. Now, my mother was 18 when she got married, but as I have told her, those were different times, and that generation was just different. They understood responsibility and commitment far better than following generations.

Oh, I was too. Honestly, I didn't grow up until I became a father. Little baby girls can change a man for the better.

It definitely has become part of your identity, GuardDAD! ) )

:taunt :taunt

 

[Guard Dad]

My first marriage failing was painful at the time, but in retrospect it was for the best. Had that not happened, I think I would have turned out to be a very different person...and not in a good way.

 

[deewee]

My first marriage failing was painful at the time, but in retrospect it was for the best. Had that not happened, I think I would have turned out to be a very different person...and not in a good way.

The end of my first marriage wasn't painful at all. The marriage, itself, was though. I didn't mourn over it, shed a tear, or anything. I was like butterfly coming out of a cocoon. I began to know myself and LOVED my liberation. :love

 

[gog8tors]

We got married way to young, I was 16 and he was 17, yes child number one was on the way. It wasn't anything he did, or anything I did. We both did what we did. We were both at fault. You know the funny thing is I learned something, from our divorce. When the kids fight with each other, and of course they try to make it like they were all innocent and stuff. I learned to ask what did I do or not do to make things better or worse?

The best thing about our relationship is we are best friends again.

 

[Genevieve]

I've been married once to the same guy for almost 22 years, but it hasn't always been easy. A few weeks before we met (at a charismatic church), my future husband had been miraculously healed of crack addiction. I was a valedictorian/National Merit Scholar who had never even wanted once to get drunk or smoke a cigarette or anything like that. I just thought, "Cool! God healed this nice guy of all that stupid stuff..."

Well...there definitely had been a healing, but you can imagine the issues we've faced over the years... :HAHA

 

[Guard Dad]

I've been married once to the same guy for almost 22 years, but it hasn't always been easy. A few weeks before we met (at a charismatic church), my future husband had been miraculously healed of crack addiction. I was a valedictorian/National Merit Scholar who had never even wanted once to get drunk or smoke a cigarette or anything like that. I just thought, "Cool! God healed this nice guy of all that stupid stuff..."

Well...there definitely had been a healing, but you can imagine the issues we've faced over the years... :HAHA

Too many people cut and run when a marriage gets into trouble. I suspect most marriages go through hard times; it's how you handle them and how strong of a foundation you have that determines whether the relationship survives or not.