why you got divorced

[Genevieve]

I've been married once to the same guy for almost 22 years, but it hasn't always been easy. A few weeks before we met (at a charismatic church), my future husband had been miraculously healed of crack addiction. I was a valedictorian/National Merit Scholar who had never even wanted once to get drunk or smoke a cigarette or anything like that. I just thought, "Cool! God healed this nice guy of all that stupid stuff..."

Well...there definitely had been a healing, but you can imagine the issues we've faced over the years... :HAHA

Too many people cut and run when a marriage gets into trouble. I suspect most marriages go through hard times; it's how you handle them and how strong of a foundation you have that determines whether the relationship survives or not.

I know. We have been extremely blessed. At the same charismatic Church where we were married, there was a prophecy over us, where the Pastor said (prophetically), "You have been in winter too long, but I am bringing you to a land of eternal summer."

I had a feeling at the time that we hadn't seen the winter yet, and I was so right. But through the hard times--impossible times, really--I always remembered that prophecy and was curious about the "summer," mentioned in it.

There was actually more to the prophecy and, although the charismatic church was Protestant, I ended up finding some Catholic imagery which matches it, and just clung to God. And for the past few years, things really have been wonderful and get better all the time...it's kind of cool. I should write a book. ) )

 

[MacDaddy]

Been divorced once. No plans to do that again - the current Mrs. Mac is a real keeper!

Nothing out of the ordinary about age, or issues when we met. Both mid-20's. Both "ready" to get married. Had some bumps over the years, couple of great kids, and we were "that" couple that was going to make it forever.

Got some hints after being married for about 15 years that she wasn't overly happy. Tried to get something out of her about why, but I will admit I didn't push too hard. I was at a turning point in my life, right around 40, about who I was, where I'd been, and who I was going to be. On my own I decided I lover my wife, was happy to have her, and was going to enjoy life.

Then, she announces she isn't happy being married to me. Agreed to go to counseling, but backed out at the last minute saying she was okay and nothing was wrong. Few months later, she announces she is divorcing me. No real reason, other than she wasn't happy and the reason must be because she was married to me.

To this day, I'm not really sure why. My best guess is a mid-life crisis on her part, some hidden issues about her parents, and who knows what else. i found out after the fact that she had a few affairs, most of them online, at least one physical. She re-married less than 2 years after we divorced, and is still married to the guy. Not sure how well they are doing, don't really care.

What I have learned could fill a book, or two. In fact I may write them one of these days. Don't take the other person for granted. Always let them know how important they are. And never turn a blind eye if you think something is wrong.

 

[Foxmeister]

I've been married once to the same guy for almost 22 years, but it hasn't always been easy. A few weeks before we met (at a charismatic church), my future husband had been miraculously healed of crack addiction. I was a valedictorian/National Merit Scholar who had never even wanted once to get drunk or smoke a cigarette or anything like that. I just thought, "Cool! God healed this nice guy of all that stupid stuff..."

Well...there definitely had been a healing, but you can imagine the issues we've faced over the years... :HAHA

Too many people cut and run when a marriage gets into trouble. I suspect most marriages go through hard times; it's how you handle them and how strong of a foundation you have that determines whether the relationship survives or not.

Exactly, they cut and run because it's the "easy way." The courts have made getting a divorce too easy. You don't need grounds; you only have to say there are irreconciable differences.

 

[Foxmeister]

I've been married once to the same guy for almost 22 years, but it hasn't always been easy. A few weeks before we met (at a charismatic church), my future husband had been miraculously healed of crack addiction. I was a valedictorian/National Merit Scholar who had never even wanted once to get drunk or smoke a cigarette or anything like that. I just thought, "Cool! God healed this nice guy of all that stupid stuff..."

Well...there definitely had been a healing, but you can imagine the issues we've faced over the years... :HAHA

Too many people cut and run when a marriage gets into trouble. I suspect most marriages go through hard times; it's how you handle them and how strong of a foundation you have that determines whether the relationship survives or not.

I know. We have been extremely blessed. At the same charismatic Church where we were married, there was a prophecy over us, where the Pastor said (prophetically), "You have been in winter too long, but I am bringing you to a land of eternal summer."

I had a feeling at the time that we hadn't seen the winter yet, and I was so right. But through the hard times--impossible times, really--I always remembered that prophecy and was curious about the "summer," mentioned in it.

There was actually more to the prophecy and, although the charismatic church was Protestant, I ended up finding some Catholic imagery which matches it, and just clung to God. And for the past few years, things really have been wonderful and get better all the time...it's kind of cool. I should write a book. ) )

I sincerely believe if two people are equally yoked and the foundation of the marriage is built upon God, it will last.

 

[Guard Dad]

I've been married once to the same guy for almost 22 years, but it hasn't always been easy. A few weeks before we met (at a charismatic church), my future husband had been miraculously healed of crack addiction. I was a valedictorian/National Merit Scholar who had never even wanted once to get drunk or smoke a cigarette or anything like that. I just thought, "Cool! God healed this nice guy of all that stupid stuff..."

Well...there definitely had been a healing, but you can imagine the issues we've faced over the years... :HAHA

Too many people cut and run when a marriage gets into trouble. I suspect most marriages go through hard times; it's how you handle them and how strong of a foundation you have that determines whether the relationship survives or not.

I know. We have been extremely blessed. At the same charismatic Church where we were married, there was a prophecy over us, where the Pastor said (prophetically), "You have been in winter too long, but I am bringing you to a land of eternal summer."

I had a feeling at the time that we hadn't seen the winter yet, and I was so right. But through the hard times--impossible times, really--I always remembered that prophecy and was curious about the "summer," mentioned in it.

There was actually more to the prophecy and, although the charismatic church was Protestant, I ended up finding some Catholic imagery which matches it, and just clung to God. And for the past few years, things really have been wonderful and get better all the time...it's kind of cool. I should write a book. ) )

I sincerely believe if two people are equally yoked and the foundation of the marriage is built upon God, it will last.

Without going into too many details...wifey and I went through some hard times. It was only because of my love for my daughter that I didn't leave. Thankfully, I stayed; we got to the root of the problem and built a great relationship.

 

[RNG]

Never been divorced...married for 21 years. I will say there have been M-A-N-Y times I wanted to cut and run, times I wanted to say well I love him but I am not in love with him, heck there were times I even really couldn't stand him..and same goes for him. But with work from both of us, we made it work and are still hanging in there. :love

 

[I'm Floored]

I've been married three times.

I was married at 18 (way too young, but I'm sure that issues from my childhood played into that decision.) My first husband was very abusive. I stayed for three years. I had vowed to never divorce (I was NOT going to end up like my parents) but the day I decided the only way out was to drive my car off a cliff to escape, something snapped in me, and I thought, "What am I doing?"

My second husband was a great guy. Really. He was kind, funny, a good friend. He also helped me find some much needed counseling. But he was in law enforcement, and for some reason, a lot of women find that very attractive. He couldn't say no. I remember the last conversation we had about trying to save the marriage, and he told me, "I don't want a divorce, either, but you need to know that I am who I am, and I'm not going to change." What do you do with that?

And then I met number 3. He is the BEST person I've ever known. To me, he is the most attractive man on the planet, body and soul. He is a great provider, compassionate, a wonderful father, loving, faithful, and PERFECT for me! We've almost been married 14 years, and I love him more every day.

We certainly have had problems over the years (mostly centered around issues with his ex-wife) but I can't imagine not being right beside him through thick and thin. I've fallen in love with him a thousand times, and I can't wait to fall again.

:love :love :love

 

[sadie612]

Chad said he would never get divorced no matter what cause his mom has been married 7 times

sometimes I try and take that as a challenge and annoy the livin snot out of him

He really is a great guy and I pray to grow old(not senior cause that just sounds odd) with him

 

[Guard Dad]

Chad said he would never get divorced no matter what cause his mom has been married 7 times

sometimes I try and take that as a challenge and annoy the livin snot out of him

He really is a great guy and I pray to grow old(not senior cause that just sounds odd) with him

I bet you do the Dutch Oven to him.

 

[sadie612]

Chad said he would never get divorced no matter what cause his mom has been married 7 times

sometimes I try and take that as a challenge and annoy the livin snot out of him

He really is a great guy and I pray to grow old(not senior cause that just sounds odd) with him

I bet you do the Dutch Oven to him.

have you been talking to him... lol

I can explain

 

[Guard Dad]

Chad said he would never get divorced no matter what cause his mom has been married 7 times

sometimes I try and take that as a challenge and annoy the livin snot out of him

He really is a great guy and I pray to grow old(not senior cause that just sounds odd) with him

I bet you do the Dutch Oven to him.

have you been talking to him... lol

I can explain

I KNEW IT!!!!!

 

[unionmom]

... But he was in law enforcement, and for some reason, a lot of women find that very attractive. He couldn't say no...

Sadly, a lot of men get sucked into that and do not have the ability to say no. Holster sniffers, badge bunnies, whatever you want to call them can be a very real problem for LE marriages. It's hard for many men to not get drawn in with all of the attention and such that those women lavish upon them ... the men often lose track of the fact that it is the badge that those women are after, not the man. I've seen it happen time and time again. Fortunately my hubby is far too grounded for that. If anything were to happen to our relationship it wouldn't be because of infidelity.

 

[I'm Floored]

... But he was in law enforcement, and for some reason, a lot of women find that very attractive. He couldn't say no...

Sadly, a lot of men get sucked into that and do not have the ability to say no. Holster sniffers, badge bunnies, whatever you want to call them can be a very real problem for LE marriages. It's hard for many men to not get drawn in with all of the attention and such that those women lavish upon them ... the men often lose track of the fact that it is the badge that those women are after, not the man. I've seen it happen time and time again. Fortunately my hubby is far too grounded for that. If anything were to happen to our relationship it wouldn't be because of infidelity.

It is crazy! I don't understand why those types of women don't understand the impact they have on so many lives. I'm just thankful that we didn't have children.

At the time of our divorce, there were 7...SEVEN...of his coworkers separated or going through divorce for the exact same reason.

smh

ETA: Not that I'm taking any responsibility away from the men who cheat. I'm not.

 

[mei lan]

It is crazy! I don't understand why those types of women don't understand the impact they have on so many lives. I'm just thankful that we didn't have children.

At the time of our divorce, there were 7...SEVEN...of his coworkers separated or going through divorce for the exact same reason.

Why is it these moronic women (and men in other relationships) don't realize that when they marry a man who left his wife for them, what they have is a man who will leave his wife for another woman? Geez...

 

[I'm Floored]

It is crazy! I don't understand why those types of women don't understand the impact they have on so many lives. I'm just thankful that we didn't have children.

At the time of our divorce, there were 7...SEVEN...of his coworkers separated or going through divorce for the exact same reason.

Why is it these moronic women (and men in other relationships) don't realize that when they marry a man who left his wife for them, what they have is a man who will leave his wife for another woman? Geez...

Yep!

 

[Madea]

It is crazy! I don't understand why those types of women don't understand the impact they have on so many lives. I'm just thankful that we didn't have children.

At the time of our divorce, there were 7...SEVEN...of his coworkers separated or going through divorce for the exact same reason.

Why is it these moronic women (and men in other relationships) don't realize that when they marry a man who left his wife for them, what they have is a man who will leave his wife for another woman? Geez...

If only I could make that point stick!

 

[mei lan]

It is crazy! I don't understand why those types of women don't understand the impact they have on so many lives. I'm just thankful that we didn't have children.

At the time of our divorce, there were 7...SEVEN...of his coworkers separated or going through divorce for the exact same reason.

Why is it these moronic women (and men in other relationships) don't realize that when they marry a man who left his wife for them, what they have is a man who will leave his wife for another woman? Geez...

If only I could make that point stick!

If I had your job, I'd probably go home every day and throw up. I would not do well seeing what you see every day.

 

[naturegirl]

Ok, since it's spill your guts time........I've been married 3 times. First time, we were both young. His dream was LEO, I didn't want that life and begged him for years not to pursue it. After 7 years of marriage and 2 beautiful kids, I finally gave in and said if that's what you want, go for it. He graduated from the Police Academy in August, we were separated by the following February, he just walked away from his wife and kids. #2 was to show him someone else wanted me.............jeeze what a mistake.

#3 Just kind of happened. I swore I'd never get married again but he wasn't going to let me walk away. 25 years later, I'm glad he was persistent.

 

[Blazing Saddles]

I've been married three times.

I was married at 18 (way too young, but I'm sure that issues from my childhood played into that decision.) My first husband was very abusive. I stayed for three years. I had vowed to never divorce (I was NOT going to end up like my parents) but the day I decided the only way out was to drive my car off a cliff to escape, something snapped in me, and I thought, "What am I doing?"

My second husband was a great guy. Really. He was kind, funny, a good friend. He also helped me find some much needed counseling. But he was in law enforcement, and for some reason, a lot of women find that very attractive. He couldn't say no. I remember the last conversation we had about trying to save the marriage, and he told me, "I don't want a divorce, either, but you need to know that I am who I am, and I'm not going to change." What do you do with that?

And then I met number 3. He is the BEST person I've ever known. To me, he is the most attractive man on the planet, body and soul. He is a great provider, compassionate, a wonderful father, loving, faithful, and PERFECT for me! We've almost been married 14 years, and I love him more every day.

We certainly have had problems over the years (mostly centered around issues with his ex-wife) but I can't imagine not being right beside him through thick and thin. I've fallen in love with him a thousand times, and I can't wait to fall again.

:love :love :love

You failed to mention your 2nd was very insecure and adored the fact that women were giving him attention. Something he lacked in high school.

 

[Ms. Diana]

Touchy subject for some; however, I am not proud, but the truth IS the truth. I have been married several times, and will not bore you with details but to say 2 of the 5 were equal fault, and after being divorced for 23 years now, I love being single and do not plan on the 6th! :firstplace I think I won the trophy for the worst record! :stooges